Walking on Eggshells

Come explore the horrors of walking on eggshells with me - coping with family members who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder.

Reading "Stop Walking on Eggshells" by Paul T. Mason M.S., Randi Kreger some years ago was a revelation - my mother and sister have not been diagnosed, and they have no self-awareness. They would never recognise their behaviour in the book - although quick to condemn each other as obvious cases! Ahh, the irony.

Anyway, diagnosed or not, they both display some fairly extreme examples of the kind of behaviour that the book talks about. They view people as either demons or angels, and you can be flipped from one category to the other in the blink of an eye, for no discernible reason.  They are never, never, never at fault, in any scenario, and they are insecure to a stunning degree.

They can rationalise their behaviour, however bizarre, and make it all your fault. They can completely do your head in with their twisted logic.

Above all when dealing with someone who displays these traits, it's crucial to have sane friends to twist your head back the right way around. I rely on my friends and my husband to whack me over the head with a frypan whenever necessary - it scares me when I start displaying these traits myself, but I cling to the fact that I am relatively self-aware.  Clinging. Clinging.